November 06, 2006

Our Adoption Journey So Far

"The family is one of Nature's masterpieces." ~George Santayana

For anyone who knows me, you know that I have always had it in my heart that I would someday adopt. I have known since I was a little girl that I wanted children, I wanted to be a mother, and I definitely wanted to adopt. Thankfully I met and married Scott who shared those feelings with me.

One Sunday last April while in church, I looked over at a little boy playing with his mother. The image stuck in my mind and I came to the realization that the time to adopt was now. As we left church, Scott and I discussed the possibilities regarding adoption. I made some phone calls (thank you Andrea!), started collecting information, and we started planning for another child. We have decided to journal our experience here so that family and friends can stay informed with the latest information and more importantly, experience this journey with us. We know it will be filled with emotion, excitement and love.

The initial steps of the adoption process included lots and LOTS and LOTS of paperwork. We had to provide copies of our birth certificates, marriage certificate, fingerprints, letters of reference (thanks to those of you who did this for us!), doctors reports, background checks and family photos.

Next we had to attend a two day seminar at our adoption agency. It was two long days filled with so much great information that we were overwhelmed and even more excited. We had to make a decision about which country we would adopt from. After some soul searching and restless nights, we decided that Taiwan was the country for us.

We then had homework to complete which consisted of writing a paper about yourself. In the end, mine was about 12 pages long and Scott's about 10! The questions covered everything -- from your childhood and upbringing to your coping skills and parenting styles. It took us ten days to answer all the questions. Once it was turned in we were assigned our social worker. We met with her twice. Once at the adoption agency and once in our home. Now that our home study is complete, we are waiting for it to be written up and turned in to our placement agency, Journeys of the Heart. Our social worker has until November 30 to complete this step. Of course, we are hoping it happens sooner. The next step will be to get on the waiting list. And I guess that sums it up because then we wait. It should take about 3 months to get a referral for a little girl from Taiwan. We will receive her picture and medical information and once we get the referral, there will be more waiting. It takes about six months for the court process to take place in Taipei. We will then travel to Taiwan to bring our new daughter home.

We have been talking to Ila a lot about her new baby sister and she couldn't be happier. We have been working on the nursery together and every time we go out she wants to buy something for her new baby sister's room. She has already picked out a name for her and can't wait to teach her to dance and share her M&M's with her. She has been wonderful through this whole process and we know that she will be an amazing big sister!

Thank you to all our family and friends that have been so supportive of us. We couldn't be happier or more excited about this new chapter in our lives and we are glad to share it with all of you.


Children are a blessing sent from God above
For us to care and nurture and most of all to love.

God calls us to be parents and gives us all the tools
And when we feel like giving up, our strength He will renew.

Children are a gift from God that He so freely lends
To make it through the childhood years, on Him we must depend.

From childhood days to a child full grown
Their joys and hurts are a parent's own.

Times of joy and laughter and those times of tears
The times spent raising a child are surely the best of years.

There comes that time in life
when a child will leave the nest
We must send them off with love and a prayer
and leave to God the rest.

We've shared the Word of God,
we've taught them right from wrong
Now it's time to let them go
and let them write their song.

The faith instilled, the examples lived,
and the lessons taught
All gifts that we've given our child,
which will never be forgotten.

There are many paths a child can take,
right or wrong will remain unknown
But rest assured that in the end,
they all lead back to home.


marc said...

wow! very cool. wishing you all the best from the west-coast! :)

"Askeep" said...

Congratulations on your decision to adopt. I have many friends who have adopted in the last couple of years. They had a long, tense journey, but they have their children and couldn't be happier.

Your post is written from the heart and very nice.

Good to hear from you.

taiwanbaby said...

Hey Lani,

I'm glad we are going through this together. I am so please we will have other Taiwan families in the area.

Anonymous said...

Congrats on setting this up!

This is going to be a very exciting experience for you, your family, and friends...tick-tock, tick-tock.

Hey Dad, here's your chance to finally 'BLOG.'


Vicki said...

Hi Lani, Scott, and Ila,
This is wonderful news! Congratulations to all of you! I'm excited to meet my new 2nd cousin!


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